Advice about dating an older man
I’m just saying it’s not as important as your spiritual maturity.If you are the same physical age but you are far more spiritually mature than someone, you will not be as happy with this person as you might be with someone younger than you who is closer to your spiritual maturity or ever more spiritually mature than you.You may like being with a younger man, but you may not like that younger man’s immature friends.Likewise you may enjoy being with an older woman, but you may find her older friends boring because they are in a different life season than you.
When you want to rank the importance of these in the success of a Christian relationship I believe your spiritual maturity is most important, your spiritual age is next important, and then you physical age is last. You spiritual age refers to when you became a Christian.
I asked her out when I was 20 and we got married when I was 22. I would not be done with getting my masters in pastoral counseling and graduating from seminary until I was 26 years old.
When we got together, we knew we were very compatible and on the same spiritual maturity level but we also knew we both would have to make sacrifices to be together because of our age difference.
He did point out, however, that I had more changing to do than her.
She was more of the person she would be in life than I was at that time. At 22 years of age I was still transitioning more than she was at 27 years old. We both have, but I have changed more because I was younger when we first met.