Dating an old friend after divorce
It’s common for women going through divorce after 60 to feel a sense of grief, guilt or even shame.
While much of the cultural stigma surrounding divorce has diminished, it’s natural to feel some sadness and regret. Stay active socially and in your career (if you are still working) or take up volunteering.
In a previous article, I wrote about how women go through 5 stages when recovering from a divorce.
Now I want to provide some practical advice for surviving a divorce after 60.
Disagreements about money are a leading cause of divorce and, unfortunately, your financial stress does not always go away when your paperwork is signed.
Whatever you do, don’t bury your head in the sand when it comes to conversations about money.
Direct your children’s energy towards helping you to start the next amazing chapter of your life. Share your fears, but, try to avoid blaming your ex-husband publically. Remind yourself of the many things in life that you still enjoy. You probably won’t want to enter the dating world for some time, but, that doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy the company of others, including men.They may also wonder how your separation will affect the family. Remind them that they will continue to have a relationship with both you and your ex-spouse.For example, they may wonder what’s going to happen with family traditions. Tell them that you don’t need or want them to “pick sides.” They can make their own decisions.Surviving a divorce is hard, but, you don’t have to do it alone. No matter how strong your friendships, try to focus on positive experiences, rather than rehashing regrets.Maintaining social connections and making new friends is especially important for women who divorce after 60. If you approach the situation with optimism, energy and openness, surviving divorce can be the start of a whole new happier life. Have you gone through a divorce or break-up after 60? What advice would you give for other women in the community who are going through a separation now?